On horses, home, Sarah and the book
May 3rd, 2008
Life has just been so cool of late.
Firstly, my darling mate Sarah, she of the first reconnaissance mission to Morocco in Slow Journey South, has just been out to visit for two weeks. It is such, such bliss to have had time with her – one of the hard things about living a dual nationality existence is how one eternally misses the people and places of one or the other all the time. It was wonderful to have her here, and we passed many a pleasant hour over long lunches and dinners – one of which is pictured here, along with another friend, Cath.
It has been such a busy month, one way or another. I went to Sydney and Brisbane for publicity for the book, and had a great time flouncing about feeling like the queen of sheba with my Random House publicist, Annabel. She did a marvellous job of hoiking me from one radio station to another, and in and out of book signings. She also loves sushi, so we did well on that front. It has been great to see the book getting so much publicity and such lovely reviews – I get chuffed every time I read a new one. Thanks most of all to those of you who have contacted me directly or left comments on the site saying how much you enjoyed it – they mean such a great deal, and give me a thrill every time I open up my email.
Sarah and I travelled up to my home town of Mansfield, and passed a couple of awesome days. Since I often feel a bit boring writing my blog when I am not walking, this particular trip gave me something to put in here that some of you may actually find interesting. Since my family left Mansfield, nearly ten years ago now, I have been – shall we say – horseless. Ok, I know I have had plenty of camels to keep me company, but I grew up on horses, and I miss them. Even more importantly, I miss the beautiful mountains and rivers of home, and the peace and joy of riding through them.
So it was just utterly wonderful to take Sarah up to stay with an old friend of mine, Lesley Dunlop, whose family has run Merrijig Lodge ever since I was a kid. She is the kind of mate I tend to catch up with every few years and never feel like I’ve skipped a beat; she has travelled all over, and is endlessly great company. Merrijig Lodge – and Lesley and her Dad, Chris Dunlop – have always run brilliant trail rides all through the hills around Merrijig and Mt Buller, anything from half a day to three days, and it is a real pleasure for me to go home and catch up with Lesley for a ride. We took Sarah out and
she came back gobsmacked by the sheer beauty of the country we rode through – if a little sore! For me it was a long breath out after weeks of racing around cities made up and speaking about myself and the book (alright, I am sure that you all think that sounds wonderfully glam, but it actually does get a bit tiring after a while – precious as I realise that sounds, and believe me, I am SOOOO grateful to be getting publicity at all, etc etc….). We drove up to Buller and sat in the sun and I thought how lucky I am to have grown up in such a beautiful part of the world – I hope I find a way to move back there in years to come.
One of the bonuses about Merrijig Lodge is it’s proximity to the legendary Merrijig pub – or to give it the official title, the Hunt Club Hotel, Merrijig. Sitting outside on the verandah sinking a quiet couple of ales after a horseride has to be one of the great pleasures in life. Sure beats the hell out of walking into dusty Tomboctou for a laugh. Sitting there watching the day fade into the glorious
dusky blue and rosy pinks of the High Country sunset, I felt lonely for the desert again, but also comforted by being back in the beauty I grew up amongst. It reminded me how truly important it is to live your life where you feel happy, and where the country matches your soul. Some of us just weren’t built for cities. I’m one of them. Fortunately for me, Graeme also loves the mountains up there, so I am not alone in my dreaming of going back home some day soon.
If any of you are thinking of visiting Australia any time soon, I cannot recommend any place more highly
than Merrijig Lodge to see the glorious country of the Alps. Have a beer with Lesley for me…
All of the excitement over both the book and Sarah being here has helped me totally refocus on two things: the next book, and the last leg of the walk. I feel utterly enthused about both, and am writing again at last and planning madly. I sometimes feel so excited about how much I have learned, and changed, over the last few years; even this enforced break, which I once felt so resentful about, has in so many ways been such a wonderful learning curve. I feel strongly that this next phase of the walk may well be the most rewarding; if the first desert trek was dominated by the utterly rotten trauma of my marriage break up, and the second phase was a real shock in a physical and logistical sense, I have a weird belief that this last desert leg will be a consolidation of all that has gone before – a peaceful, well organised, well outfitted, and satisfying walk. The reality may well wind up totally to the contrary, of course, but I feel so very much more confident in myself about it. It has taken so long for me to really feel at ease with what I have done, and to believe in my ability to carry on; sometimes I have wondered if I have just been lucky, fluked it to get this far, and it is hard to look back and see what I have done right rather than simply see all the mistakes I have made. But I guess that in itself is a continual spur to always want to do better, and that is where I am at right now – full of the desire to really get out there and do it well, to walk every bit I can and enjoy it.
In the meantime I am appreciating every wonderful thing about being home amongst family, friends, and the accroutrements of modern life. Much and all as I would love to say I have come out of my walk with a desire to live like those in the countries I have passed through – I am a shameless advocate of the good life, and of the freedoms our life here in Australia offers. Whilst I love the thrill and exotic nature of the places I pass through, it is bliss to come home to a clean, safe, prosperous and educated nation, where the quality of life is so incredibly good. We are unbelievably fortunate. Although I learn much about humility and modest needs when I am travelling, it also highlights for me how amazingly lucky we are to be able to choose to visit the countries I have – and then return home. Our lives are easy, blessed, and full of a myriad of opportunity. We have much to be thankful for, I think.
To all of those booksellers who have been so welcoming in recent weeks, thankyou, and to Annabel and all at Random House, my thanks know no bounds for your generosity and hard work on my behalf. I am seriously chuffed to see the book get to Number two on the Sydney Morning Herald Travel book bestseller list! To all of you who have bought it – an enormous thankyou. I will hurry up and get the second one happening.
I called in to the local bookstore in Mansfield – after savage prompting from Sarah – and stutteringly offered to sign some copies of the book. It is hard not to feel a total plonker doing this, and I always cringe in shame, but the owners seemed ok with it and were lovely, so despite needing a soothing ale afterwards, I think it was a good experience for all involved.
Please keep emailing. You have no idea how heartwarming it is to hear of so many others who are dreaming and planning out there – particularly women! I think there is an endless supply of brilliant, creative, gutsy chicks out there who are just packing up and doing it. How utterly wonderful. I love hearing from every one of you.
I hope you enjoy these pics of the country I come from…slightly different to the desert, but God’s own, indeed.
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6 Comments Add your own
1. Berengere | May 5th, 2008 at 11:17 am
Hello Paula,
I read an article about your trek about 2 months ago – and was delighted to read your first book recently.
A mum of 3, working full-time, I discovered a wonderful way to make friends while keeping fit thanks to the amazing Wild Women on Top group. A year and a half ago, I was a heavy smoker, very overweight. I have now quit smoking, have lost a few kilos, and more importantly have discovered myself through walking. So much so that I am going on a Kilimanjaro summit expedition in 45 days, with a bunch of Wild Women. In a way, I am quite envious about your trip – which my life does not allow me yet. But it has certainly inspired me, and I am planning to, one day, walk in Europe – when I am back there. In the meantime, I revel in travel literature, enjoy my own training and can’t wait for your next book!
2. JO | May 20th, 2008 at 5:39 am
I was sitting in the tea room one afternoon and came across an article in a Mag about your walk across Africa it was so interesting that I jumped on this website and have now finished reading all your diary blogs. I am currently doing ivf which has been an ongoing battle for the last two years with no success no baby . I feel like I’m living in the darkest years of my life and depression has been an unwelcomed guest to my life. Your journey has been so exciting to read and I keep thinking back to 2005 when I spent 3 months in Africa doing an overland trip from Cairo to Cape town. All my life one of my dreams was to go to Africa and I did it. People told me females can’t go to Africa by themselves as I did some independant travel in Africa before I started the overland trip. I’m so glad I did it and didn’t listen to their negative views and your walk really highlights the fact that females can move mountains and go out into the big wild world and catch their dreams.
I’m going to buy your book and I can’t wait till you return to Africa to complete your walk. I have read about the Tenere Desert it sounds like the classic Saharan Landscape I will cross fingers toes hands whatever that you will get back their to continue the journey to Egypt. I would love to go to this region one day and love hearing about it through your journey.
Looking forward to hearing your latest updates re the walk.
cheers
JO
3. Susan | May 21st, 2008 at 1:51 pm
Hello Paula,
I first heard you speaking while you were in Brisbane for your book publicity tour recently. ( It was a radio interview actually) I had such a wonderful picture of you as you spoke that I HAD to stop and buy your book that very day! It was supposed to be a gift for my sister who is a ‘walker’ and seeker too. She loved Kokoda, Kilamanjaro, Kinabalu and has the Camino de Santiago pilgramage walk on her ‘will do’ list. (Which is why I specifically tracked down your book)
Of course, once I got the book home, I ended up reading it all before posting it to my sister in London…she did receive her gift eventually! We both got an enormous amount from your writings..thank you. Don’t hurry too much with your next book….. we know it will happen and after all, it is your enjoyment and pleasure in discovering new things and insights and savouring those moments, that comes through so vibrantly in your writing. Can’t happen if it’s rushed! Congratulations on a great book and hearing you speak about your journey was magic.
Thanks
Susan
4. Judith Robinson | May 31st, 2008 at 3:53 am
I have just read your book which was given to me by my daugther for mothers day. I couldn’t give Sarah the title but told her on the cover there was a woman with a backpack walking to Africa. Anyway with a call from the book store they managed to work it out. I enjoyed the comment from the girl who wanted to marry a Saudi. I hope she achived her goal. I lived in Saudi Arabia for four years many years ago and still dream of returning. I loved my time in Riyadh some of the best days of my life were there. (and yes some women did feel like Diamonds there). The Saudi people are wonderful hosts and I found great happiness there. Good luck with your journey and thank you for your ispiration. I loved your book. Thank you for sharing. I am looking forward to your next book and I will follow your web site. I work at a school in Perth for International students this is the closest thing I can find to travel at the moment. Keep Walking.
5. Geoffrey Ryan | June 11th, 2008 at 9:28 am
Hi Paula
most inspiring account of oneself, please continue to seek and liberate, all the best
thanks
6. Sharyn | January 27th, 2009 at 6:28 am
I have just moved to Mansfield, and borrowed some books from the Mansfield library, one of them being yours. How absolutely amazed I was to read that the town I now call home is also the town you called home too!! I believe that is too amazing to be called a coincidence!
I feel like I felt ever step you took and your brutal honesty about the hardships you endured were so refreshing, and real. My husband, 2 kids and I spent the first 6 months of 2008 exploring the West & North of Australia and although we were in the luxury of a car, I could so relate to your feelings of ‘living the dream’ and making your life extraordinary. Travel and meeting people from all walks of life is what makes life real, makes you feel alive.We cant wait to travel again, and reading your book has made me reinvigorated to believe that anything is possible. But for now, Mansfield feels so good, it is so beautiful and our souls really do feel home, for now anyway!!
Cant wait to read your next book, take care xx.
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